Guys and Breaking Up

I rarely watch Sex and the City but I did get to see the episode where Berger dumped Carrie via a Post - It note left at the dresser the morning after they had sex. Miranda, Carrie's friend, was also once dumped through the guy's doorman who simply said to her, "I'm sorry Ms. Hobbes, Jonathan won't be coming down. Ever." I myself also had the misfortune of being dumped by a guy who did it by simply "disappearing". He just stopped calling. Now that was something. He'd probably give Houdini a run for his money when it comes to performing "disappearing acts".

What is it with guys and breaking up? Most of them are just so darn clueless as to how to go about it properly. Are they afraid they'd hurt us with their straightforwardness? Are they afraid that we'd probably scream, shout, cry, pull out our hair, or bang our heads against the wall if they try to break up with us face to face? Well yeah maybe some women might resort to that. I once had a guy friend whose girlfriend threatened him to hold her breath until she passes out when he tried to break up with her face to face. But that's beside the point. Guys, the fact is, every woman, or anyone for that matter, deserves a decent, proper break - up, no matter whose fault it is. If you want out, have the balls to go to her, talk to her, explain your reason/s. Just simply tell her to her face. Why? The answer is quite simple really, those women, regardless of the degree of bitchiness, were once important parts of your lives. Well ok, some might not be that important, but still, they were parts of your lives and not giving them the proper break - up that they deserve is like saying that what you had with them meant nothing at all. It disregards and discounts everything that you've once shared, whether good or bad.

In this regard, I would like to say "Kudos!" to those men who have the guts to break up with their girlfriends properly. It takes a real man to do that. As for the rest, well, they're just a bunch of spineless cowards. Sorry.